STUDENT ENGAGEMENT EXPERIENCES

SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL DOMAIN

SE3

Students employ interpersonal and social skills and traits (e.g., empathy, sensitivity to the feelings and needs of others, the ability to communicate, etc.) to guide appropriate behavior and create positive relationships and meaningful connections to family members, classmates, peers, teachers, and others.

KEY BELIEFS:

I will be a better student if I act on the following beliefs:

 

  • I know how to act when I am with other people.
  • I realize that my reputation is on display whenever I interact with others.
  • Character is who you are when your friends are watching.

 

APPLICATION:

 

  • Explain and model appropriate social interactions for different situations.
  • Use fictional characters or celebrities to analyze positive and negative relationships.
  • Role-play scenarios to demonstrate and practice positive interactions that may occur within a setting dealing with adults in social situations or workplace environment.
  • Journal as to the difference between reputation and good character and their impact upon interactions you might have when dealing with others.

QUOTATION POSTERS:

QUOTATIONS:

  1. If the way you’ve been treating me is a mark of fondness, maybe you’d better take a fresh look at your interpersonal communication skills. – Susan Elizabeth Phillips
  2. Communication is an art form that is crafted throughout our lives.” – Asa Don Brown
  3. Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That’s why they look alike. – Daniel Goleman
  4. Here is just the beginning of a list of skills that exam results cannot possibly hope to reflect: interpersonal skills, the ability to entertain, how articulate we are as speakers, our ability to work as part of a team, the ability to deal with challenges and invention. – Alexandra Adornetto
  5. Need to listen well so that i hear what is not said. – Thuli Madonsela
  6. Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill. – Buddha
  7. Good words are worth much, and cost little. – George Herbert
  8. True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less. – C.S. Lewis
  9. The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them. – Ralph G. Nichols

LESSONS:

 

8 Social Skills Students Need (And How to Teach Them Step by Step!)

www.weareteachers.com

 

Here are eight key social skills that all students need to be successful. Consider working on one or two skills with your class each week. Start by gathering students together and talking about the skill. For example, ask: Why is listening attentively important? What does it look like when a person is listening? How do we know? Work together to list the steps for each skill or behavior on chart paper or a whiteboard.

 

Social Skill: How to Listen Attentively

 

Skill Steps:

  1. Look at the person who is talking and remain quiet.
  2. Wait until the person is finished talking before you speak.
  3. Show that you heard the speaker by nodding your head, and using positive phrases, such as “Okay” or “That’s interesting.”

 

Classroom Activity:  Invite students to tell each other jokes to practice active listening. Gather joke books from your school library or send students online to Aha Jokes to find their favorite funnies to share with their friends. Have students work in small groups taking turns in the roles of speaker and active listeners. Older students can practice sharing opinions on class reading or plans for college or career.

 

Social Skill: How to Greet Others

 

Skill Steps:

 

  1. Look at the person.
  2. Use a pleasant voice.
  3. Say, “Hi” or “Hello.”

 

Classroom Activity:  Challenge students to come up with 25 or more possible greetings they can use with each other, with you or with a classroom guest. Include greetings in different languages. Each morning, go around the room and have each student offer a greeting to the class.

 

Social Skill: Following Instructions 

Skill Steps:

  1. Look at the person.
  2. Say okay.
  3. Do what you’ve been asked to do right away.
  4. Check back in with the person.

Classroom Activity:  Play classroom games that help students to increase their ability to follow instructions with traditional games like Simon Says and Red Light, Green Light. Or challenge your students to a scavenger hunt around the classroom or school.  Explain that theirs is no way to succeed without following directions precisely. As with all the skills, have your students go through the steps every time you issue a request until they become second nature.

 

Social Skill:  Asking for Help

Skill Steps:

  1. Look at the person.
  2. Ask the person if he or she has time to help you.
  3. Clearly explain the kind of help you need.
  4. Thank the person for helping.

 

Classroom Activity: Asking for help can be difficult for many students and even adults. In a class meeting, have student practice this skill by taking a fun and playful approach. On separate notecards, write down situations in which a person is asking for help, e.g., “a man asking a stranger for help moving a piano,” “a teacher asking a colleague for help grading a huge pile of papers,”  “an astronaut asking for help getting out of his suit.”  Invite pairs of students to pick a notecard to act out the scene including all the steps!

 

Social Skill:  How to Disagree Appropriately

Skill Steps:

  1. Look at the person.
  2. Use a pleasant voice.
  3. Say, “I understand how you feel.”
  4. Tell why you feel differently.
  5. Give a reason.
  6. Listen to the other person

Classroom Activity: Disagreeing without arguing is a skill that many adults as well as kids and teens find difficult. Like all social skills, it takes resources and practice. That’s why going over the steps of each skill is so important. Give students the chance to practice debating and disagreeing when the stakes are low. For example, write a controversial statement on the board such as, “Rum raisin is the very best flavor of ice cream,” or “Rap is not music,” and invite your students to disagree politely!

 

Social Skill:  How to Make an Apology

Skill Steps:

  1. Look at the person.
  2. Use your best serious, sincere voice.
  3. Begin with “I’m sorry for…”, or “I want to apologize for…”
  4. Do your best not to make excuses.
  5. Explain how you plan to do better in the future.
  6. Say, “Thanks for listening.”

Classroom Activity:  Let’s face it: apologizing is hard, but it does get easier with practice. Consider tying your discussion of apologies to a book you are reading as a class. From David Shannon’s picture book No, David! to Louise Fitzhugh’s classic Harriet the Spy, many stories lend themselves to discussions of social skills, mistakes, and apologies.

Social Skill:  How to Accept “No” for an Answer

Skill Steps:

  1. Look at the person.
  2. Say okay.
  3. Stay calm.
  4. If you disagree, return to the subject later in a respectful manner.

 

Classroom Activity: Accepting “no” can be difficult when we feel strongly about a situation. This is a skill that needs to be modeled repeatedly as its draws on other important skills. In order to accept “no” gracefully, a child needs to be able to respect authority, see another’s point of view, and have self control. Write 5-6 situations on notecards and give them to groups of students.  Examples: The class wants to ask the teacher to hold class outside.  Asking your parents if you can watch an R rated movie.  Challenge students to model how they will ask, and how they will handle the answer.  Talk about how they could return to the subject with a respectful argument at another time.

 

  • Social Skills for Middle School Students

Lessons on social skills in the classroom, with peers and adults

https://www.cccoe.net/social/skillslist.htm

  • Better Attiudes and Social Skills for Elementary Grade Students

https://www.tnvoices.org/wp-content/uploads/A-Collection-of-Social-Emotional-Lesson-Plans-Website-Version-3-23-20152.pdf

ARTICLES AND STORIES:

 

Top 10 social skills students need to succeed

https://news.vanderbilt.edu/2007/09/27/top-10-social-skills-students-need-to-succeed-58465/

VIDEOS:

·       Social Skills Video: Seeing Someone Else’s Side

Kate accidentally steps on Mike’s sneakers, and Mike gets very upset. Kate doesn’t understand why Mike is so upset, because it’s just an accident. Mike doesn’t understand why Kate doesn’t care. When it happens again, they think about the other person’s side – Kate knows these are Mike’s favorite sneakers, so she apologizes. Mike understands it was just an accident, and it’s no big deal.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r_cnk_yObRQ

·       The Big Bang Theory – Chess Clock Conversation

big bang theory

EDUCATIONAL OUTCOMES:

SE3.1

Social Awareness

SE3.4

Positive Relationships

SE3.6

Leadership

SE3.2

Empathy

SE3.5

Effective Communication

SE3.7

Collaboration and Teamwork