Tiger – The Last Installment 650.4
Okay. I can’t take it anymore. In the face of mountains of evidence that Tiger Woods hid a secret life based on lies and duplicity, I have to abandon my previous “leave Tiger alone” position to join the “shame on you” bandwagon.
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I know this will disappoint some of my listeners, especially those who think we should ignore or minimize his extramarital escapades because he’s only human, because people make mistakes, or because so many cheat on their spouses.
First, the “he’s only human” excuse is a nonstarter. Although humans are imperfect, we’re also the only living creatures with the capacity to know right from wrong and the ability to make a rational choice to do what’s right. Our humanity shouldn’t be defined by our negative tendencies but by our great potential for virtue.
Second, what Tiger did wasn’t a mistake. His infidelities were premeditated and done in reckless disregard for the harm they could and ultimately did cause to people who love and trust him, most notably his wife.
Finally, Tiger can’t find refuge in the “everyone does it” excuse, not only because it’s false but because it’s a rationalization that masks the sheer brutality of marital infidelity. Yes, it’s common. Yes, lots of otherwise good people do it. Still, there are few things one human being can do to another that cause deeper or more lasting pain.
The indecency of his infidelity wasn’t about sex. Tiger’s squeaky clean image gave him Zeus-like status on the sparsely populated Mt. Olympus of sports role models, which enabled him to make millions of extra dollars. Sadly, it was a fraud, and many of us feel cheated.
This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.



Comments
First, I am not a fan of any sport. From what I read and heard on the radio, Tiger Woods is one great golfer; that cannot be taken away from him. What he did to his wife, kids, family and supporters was stupidity at its best. How could anybody of any intelligence think they could get away with this kind of foolishness forever? He will receive what he deserves.
Posted by: Steve White | December 23, 2009 9:39 PM
I agree that Tiger Woods's image and his actual life are contradictory. However, it seems to me that the "news" organizations are spending more time on the prurient aspects as opposed to the moral stance that we should live what we preach. They could do more good by discussing consistency with inner and public life.
Posted by: Marilyn Saunders | December 24, 2009 11:03 AM
Sure, it was easy to cave in and discuss the Tiger Woods matter. But there's a difference here. You are only giving your thoughts on Woods and what he did while mainstream media (gossip shows in particular) obsesses on every minute detail as if we cannot get on with our lives if we don't know about it. I wouldn't trust the gossip shows to speak my weight. Thanks for your perspective about the whole thing.
Posted by: Christopher Cook | December 24, 2009 11:15 AM
"He's only human" and "Everyone does it" are rationalizations and flimsy defenses for dishonest and immoral behavior. Perhaps what is as bad as or worse than that is when the person who commits the act and later gets caught gives a public "I'm sorry," then apparently believes he/she has been forgiven by all and is then able to go forward with their business as if their actions never happened. Good character recognizes that neither excuses, apologies, or forgiveness relieves one of still having to take responsibility for inappropriate behavior.
Posted by: Jerry Young | December 27, 2009 6:33 PM
Tiger is human! We have been separated from God. We are on our own to take on the world. The world has equal opportunity to lead us in good or bad directions.
The focus now may need to be praying that Tiger knows that he is forgiven. Our strength in the assurance of forgiveness may be what the Lord is teaching us.
Posted by: Dave Johnson | December 29, 2009 9:13 AM
He lied and cheated on his wife. His squeaky clean image was a lie to the public, and his true image is forever tarnished.
Posted by: Bob | January 4, 2010 9:26 PM
As a woman, it will be hard for me to ever put Tiger's transgressions aside. His infidelity is the ultimate betrayal to his wife and children, and I can only hope that the media's spotlight on his secret life brings some humility and a shift in the way he conducts himself at work and at home.
Posted by: Carol Abernathy | January 5, 2010 6:28 AM
I have difficulty saying it, but I have been guilty of the same transgressions. When caught, obviously, I didn't have to deal with the publicity Tiger has to deal with. Messing around is like an addiction. When involved, you feel a euphoria that gives you the impression you are invincible.
If these allegations are proven true, look at the foolishness of someone with his status thinking he would get away with it. At the time, this was the last thing on his mind. This is not to make excuses for his/my actions. Now that I have repented, I look back and see how really stupid I had acted and am now living the pain I had inflicted on my family...a pain I can never mend.
I think Tiger will come to a time when he persecutes himself for his actions -- at least I hope he does. If not, he will not have learned his lesson. The near future will reveal how mature an individual he really is. My hope is that he is beating himself up internally much more than the press ever could externally.
Posted by: Larry | January 5, 2010 7:09 AM
Tiger made billions in endorsements by selling his image. Adding a wife and kids was a part of that marketing package. He should be dropped by every endorser. Fortunately, a number of his endorsers have seen their stock values drop and apparently have found that it is associated with this scandal. It's great if the free market is also helping reinforce ethics. A rare thing, but perhaps this time it is. If a sports personality doesn't want their personal life scrutinized, they should just take their team salary and stop there. The minute they endorse products, they are selling themselves. We expect the product to be as advertised - not a fraud - and so should all companies that use these people to sell their products.
Posted by: Gwen Lebec | January 8, 2010 5:13 PM
Being a public figure is an interesting thing. People hang on every word you say. They're quick to celebrate you and they're quick to tear you down in public forums. I'm not only talking about Tiger, I'm talking about you, Michael. You just can't win with your listeners no matter what you say about this topic. You're either too soft or too hard on him, and the ones who disagree with you are especially brutal, even during the holidays. I'm convinced that the truth is less black and white and the listeners who have got it right are the ones who have listened to both sides, made their private judgments, acknowledge their own transgressions in life, made or are making amends with those they have wronged, and are trying their best to be people of character by spreading hope and looking at the good that can be found even in the worst circumstances. Don't join the lynch mob, people. It's very ugly to read.
Posted by: Anthony C | January 9, 2010 5:56 AM
I agree with Anthony C....However, one must take a stand against individuals like Tiger Woods selling his image to market goods that he obtained and massed millions to endorse. No one forced Tiger Woods to sell this image; he did so willingly. I personally wouldn't encourage anyone to emulate a sports or public figure.
Now we hear in the news that Mark McGuire admitted steroid usage. What is the sports world coming to? I am grateful for Michael Josephson reminding us all that Character DOES count.
Posted by: Cindy | January 12, 2010 3:06 PM
Tiger Woods is a narcissist. He has marketed his invincible image and is a billionaire based on flat-out lies. Shame on the companies that have chosen to continue to endorse him. He is a horrible role model to children. He deserves all the negative publicity because he is a fraud.
Posted by: Mary Moller | January 15, 2010 8:26 AM
He cheated. He was caught. The depth of his character will be shown by his actions from this point forward.
Posted by: Matt Sutton-Vermeulen | January 18, 2010 4:45 AM