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September 30, 2008

Look Within 586.3

Last night was the beginning of the Jewish high holy days, a 10-day period starting with a celebration of the New Year (Rosh Hashanah) and ending with a solemn day of atonement (Yom Kippur).

Rosh Hashanah is not simply about making New Year’s resolutions. Jews are expected to pause from their daily lives, sit in objective judgment of their conduct during the past year, and examine the state of their souls so they can hold themselves accountable for any gaps between their conscience and their conduct, between the standards they profess and the actions they perform.

As Rabbi Mordecai Kaplan put it, the goal is “to seek reconstruction of one’s personality in accordance with the highest ethical possibilities of human nature.”

The profound insight underlying this quest for self-improvement is that every human being is endowed with the ability to understand good and evil and the free will to choose good.

Self-reflection, then, is just the prelude to a fresh commitment to be a better person.

When we examine our conduct and character, hold ourselves accountable for any gaps between the standards we profess and the actions we perform, acknowledge our faults, and seek to improve and make amends, we are engaged in a spiritual quest for worthiness that enriches our lives and our society beyond measure.

Although the process is clothed in religious ritual, one can come to similar insights about the nature and desirability of being a good person from a purely secular perspective. So whether we call it morality or ethics, or think in terms of our souls or our character, it’s good to be good,

Choosing to live a life of virtue lights and sustains a flame within us that can’t be extinguished. So to all of you, Happy New Year.

L’shana tova.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 29, 2008

Paul Newman's Legacy 586.2

Paul Newman’s life was commemorated in thousands of obituaries all over the world. It was often noted that he was an Oscar-winning Hollywood superstar who often played unsavory characters – pool hustlers, con men, and killers.

But in life he was so much better than that.

Other common descriptors included director, race-car driver, entrepreneur, activist, philanthropist, humanitarian, practical joker, father of five, and a happily married man for 50 years. That’s quite a legacy, especially in Hollywood.

I saw him interviewed many times and was always struck by how fundamentally down to earth and sensible he seemed. He was a man who knew how to capitalize on his fame and enjoy his wealth without pretention or vanity. He was proud to have been in the top 20 of Richard Nixon’s Enemies List, and he loved and took quite seriously driving race cars on the professional circuit.

Yet the most exceptional thing about Paul Newman was his philanthropy. He created Newman’s Own, a natural food company with his picture on every label and the slogan “Shameless exploitation in pursuit of the common good.”

Although he was shocked that the brand became hugely successful (he once remarked that it was a joke that got out of control), he never wavered from his commitment to donate every cent of profit to charity – about $250 million so far.

His Hole in the Wall Gang camps have become the world’s largest family of camps serving children with serious illnesses.

It was reported that a week before he died he sat with his daughter in the arbor of his garden and said, “It’s been a privilege to be here.”

It was our privilege as well.

I once wrote that what will matter in the end is how long you will be remembered, by whom, and for what. Paul Newman will long be remembered by millions of beneficiaries of his talent and generosity as a man who made the world better.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 26, 2008

Creating a Sustainable Ethical Culture 586.1

Suppose Amy’s bonus depends on achieving aggressive sales goals and she knows she can pump her numbers by instructing Bob, a subordinate, to ship goods to a large customer that weren’t ordered.

Whether she will choose to engage in this scheme and order Bob to participate, and whether Bob will do so, is not only a matter of personal character but of corporate culture.

Decisions of employees like Amy and Bob are strongly influenced by their perceptions of the company’s character and operational values. In most organizations, you get what you reward and encourage what you allow.

Amy is more likely to avoid deceptive conduct if she believes integrity and honesty are ground rules rather than rhetorical ornaments and if she’ll be more severely sanctioned for deceptive conduct than missing her numbers. Similarly, Bob is likely to say no to his boss if he’s convinced the company wants him to and will support him if he does.

In today’s precarious environment, leaders have a duty to assess their organization’s culture and do whatever is needed to strengthen or create a sustainable ethical environment that generates trust and promotes honesty, fairness, and unflinching accountability as well as legal compliance.

This can’t be accomplished by lofty rhetoric or even strict ethics codes. Words and rules must be translated into expectations and made believable by the modeling of senior executives and by adopting performance-review criteria, compensation systems, and promotion decisions that reward ethical judgments and punish ethical shortcuts.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 25, 2008

Refuse to Be Afraid 585.5

Tim Wrightman, a former All-American UCLA football player, tells a story about how, as a rookie lineman in the National Football League, he was up against the legendary pass rusher Lawrence Taylor.

Taylor was not only physically powerful and uncommonly quick but was a master at verbal intimidation. Looking young Tim in the eye, he said, “Sonny, get ready. I’m going to the left and there’s nothing you can do about it.”

Wrightman coolly responded, “Sir, is that your left or mine?” The question froze Taylor long enough to allow Wrightman to throw a perfect block.

It’s amazing what we can accomplish if we refuse to be afraid. Fear – whether it’s of pain, failure, or rejection – is a toxic emotion that creates monsters in our mind that can consume self-confidence and intimidate us from doing our best or even trying at all.

For example, as a law professor, I saw scores of capable students fail the bar exam, not because they didn’t know enough but because their anxiety hindered their ability to remember or coherently express what they did know.

For most law graduates, passing the bar exam should be no more difficult than walking across a board twenty feet long and two feet wide. The trouble is, they don’t walk normally because they’re intimidated by the illusion that the board is suspended 100 feet in the air and that getting across it is a life-or-death matter. What’s the worst that can happen? Embarrassment, inconvenience, and expense – but none of these is fatal.

Perspective is an antidote to fear. Remember, most things you fear will never happen, and even if they do, you can handle it.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 24, 2008

Life After Tragedy 585.4

Last night, I attended a fundraising dinner for the Erika Whitmore Godwin Foundation, the creation of Susan and Wendell Whitmore, a couple who transformed their personal mountain of sorrow into a living monument to their daughter Erika who died in the prime of her life.

Through a content-rich website Griefhaven.org, the foundation provides resources to guide parents recently maimed by the death of a child out of the black swamp of despair. Many at the dinner had lost a child, and regardless of the age or cause of death, these bereft parents all shared a common sentence – to live the rest of their lives with a hole in their heart.

One of the speakers, Dolly Saget, mother of comedian Bob, had lost four children. No one could blame them if they had retreated to a dark dungeon of despondency, but the remarkable people in that room refused to surrender to grief. Through hope, courage, and strength, they made a painful peace with their reality so they could move on, so they could laugh, so they could enjoy the company of others and savor good memories without being consumed by regret.

Their strategy is not to bury their pain so deep that they forget their loss. They want to remember. They want to celebrate and honor their children – not by weeping, but by easing the pain of others.

People like the Whitmores confirm that pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. They also teach us that deeply wounded hearts can be healed through life-affirming energy provided by a community of caring friends linked through common experiences and that a rewarding and meaningful life can be made from the rubble of personal calamity.

The evening ended with an inspired and inspiring performance by singer Davis Gaines. With his music still in my head, I left the dinner profoundly grateful for my life.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 23, 2008

That’s Just the Way I Am 585.3

“That’s just the way I am.”

When we hear this, someone is usually telling us, “Get off my back” or “Accept me as I am.” Often it’s a response to criticism. It could be about chronic lateness, thoughtlessness, broken promises, physical or verbal abuse, or infidelity. Whatever it is, we’re asked to let it go.

In the end, this is a ploy to get us to lower our expectations based on the dubious idea that certain bad habits are an intrinsic part of character and therefore beyond our control. We’re expected to believe it’s foolish and futile to expect a person to change.

There are, of course, lots of things that are beyond our control: short stature, big bones, receding hairline. Fortunately, character is different. That’s completely within our control. The poor and the rich, the slow and the smart, the plain and the pretty all have an equal opportunity to become people of character.

Sure, character can be influenced by heredity and environment, but it’s determined by choice. No disposition, circumstance, or experience is so powerful that it forever fixes our character. That is never finished. It’s constantly shaped and sculpted by the choices we make to nurture or ignore our more noble instincts and to surrender to or overcome negative impulses and corrupting temptations.

When it comes to what we demand of ourselves or others, we should never lower our standards. Character is a function of choice. Weaknesses and bad habits are not excuses not to get better.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 22, 2008

I'm Only a One-Star 585.2

Years ago I was talking to a group of Army generals about the way politicians often treat the defense budget as an all-purpose public-works fund to help bring money to their districts.

One general admitted, “Yes, if the chairman of the Appropriations Committee comes from a place that makes trucks, we’re probably going to buy those trucks. That’s the way it is, the way it always was, and the way it always will be.”

I suggested that it was a form of bribery to buy the trucks just to please the politician.

The general barked, “It’s not bribery. It’s extortion!”

“Don’t sound so powerless,” I replied. “You’re a general.”

Without skipping a beat, he answered, “Yeah, but I’m only a one-star.”

I hear this abdication of moral responsibility a lot – from business executives who surrender to pressures to engage in dubious business practices, from journalists who see their great calling being overcome by a growing profit obsession, and from others who feel they just can’t buck the system.

I understand it’s easier and often seems smarter to go along to get along. But when systems become corrupt, irrational, or wasteful, it’s our duty to try to make things better.

As Edward Everett Hale said, “It’s true I am only one, but I am one. And the fact that I can’t do everything will not prevent me from doing what I can do.”

When there’s a gap between reality and ethical ideals, people of character don’t surrender their ideals. They fight for them. They work to change the way things are to the way they ought to be.

And much more often than we realize, defective systems collapse at the first sight of principled resistance.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 19, 2008

Loss 585.1

Loss.
Great, sudden, inexplicable, unfair loss.
It's everywhere and unavoidable.
Caused by hurricanes and earthquakes, fires and floods, train and plane crashes, war and terrorism, criminal violence, disease, betrayal, even the thunderous crash of monumental financial institutions, thousands of people's lives are maimed and mutilated, forever diminished by loss.
Homes, prized possessions, pensions, jobs, and health and are damaged or destroyed.
And so much worse, loved ones -- sons, daughters, moms, dads, friends, and family -- are yanked away without ceremony or a chance to say good-bye.
Victims of loss weep, "Why me?"
Survivors silently rejoice and then feel guilty for thinking, "Thank God it wasn't me."
And the great mass of casual onlookers feel both compassion and fear knowing, "Next time that could be me."
What's left after loss?
Choice.
One choice: dwell in loss, close the curtains, confine oneself to the small dark room of inconsolable despondency.
Another is to grieve and move on.
One choice is easier; the other is better.
How long does loss last?
It's up to you.

I was inspired to write this poem not only by the almost daily stories of natural and human-caused calamities but by a remarkable woman named Susan Whitmore. Struck down by the death of her daughter Erika, Susan chose to escape the dark dungeon of despair by creating the Erika Whitmore Godwin Foundation and a website www.griefhaven.org to console and counsel other parents who lost a child.

As the father of five kids I love so much it almost hurts, I can't cope with even the thought of losing any one of them. So I marvel at Susan and other moms and dads who found the strength and courage to choose to live good and decent lives despite the holes in their hearts.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 18, 2008

If You’re in a Hole, Stop Digging 584.5

Most of us have lied to get out of trouble. From childhood denials (“It wasn’t me”) to adult fabrications (“The check’s in the mail”), what seem like harmless falsehoods easily fall off our tongues. And then we make up more excuses or tell more lies to protect the first one. Soon the cover-up is more serious and credibility-damaging than whatever it was that we lied about in the first place.

The natural tendency to avoid discomfort makes our lives more difficult in other ways as well. Some people damage or endanger their most important relationships at home or work by failing to acknowledge and deal with small problems that then fester into serious ones.

Here’s a useful piece of advice: When you’re in a hole, stop digging. Whether our problems are of our own making or not, whether we know how to resolve them or not, the first step is to stop making things worse. Stop making excuses. Stop blaming others. Stop ignoring our strong and persistent feelings. And stop dismissing and discounting what others tell us about their needs and feelings.

Once we stop digging, we can work on getting out of the hole. It may take self-reflection, self-restraint, or willpower. Perhaps we have to adjust our schedules or simply be more attentive and considerate. Sometimes the best thing to do is ask for help so someone will throw us a rope.

Like so many aspects of character, this is often easier said than done. But when we manage our lives thoughtfully and with integrity, things do get better.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 17, 2008

A Perfect Game 584.4

In Echoes of the Maggid, Rabbi Paysach Krohn tells a story of a young boy with severe learning disabilities named Shaya who was walking past a park with his father when he saw a group of boys playing baseball. He asked his dad if he thought they’d let him play. Although Shaya couldn’t even hold a bat properly, the father asked one of the boys, who surprisingly said yes.

 

The boy knew Shaya and reasoned that the game was almost over. His team was six runs behind, so he said, “He can play the outfield, and we’ll try to put him up to bat in the last inning.”

Unexpectedly, his team rallied. When Shaya came to bat, there were two outs, the bases were loaded, and the game was on the line. The boys kept their word and let him come to the plate.

After a clumsy swing, a teammate went up and held the bat with him. The pitcher moved closer to lob the ball in softly. With his teammate’s help, Shaya hit a slow ground ball to the pitcher. He could have easily thrown him out and ended the game, but he deliberately threw it over the first baseman’s head. Everyone started yelling, “Shaya, run to first. Run to first!”

Wide-eyed with excitement, he ran. The right fielder saw his joy and intentionally made another bad throw. Players on both teams shouted for him to keep running. The shortstop helped him run in the right direction.

To the cheers of “Run home, Shaya!” he got a hero’s welcome at home plate as all 18 boys from both teams cheered him for his game-winning, grand-slam home run.

Shaya was deliriously happy, and his father wept knowing he’d just experienced a perfect moment in a perfect game.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

* This commentary was adapted from one that has circulated widely on the Internet under the title “Run, Shaya, Run.” The original version was published by Krohn as “Perfection at the Plate” in his 1999 book. He attests that the story is true, which he claims he heard from Shaya’s father, a friend of his. The full story and an interesting critique (which finds fault with the message because, in the writer’s view, treating such children in a patronizing manner is disrespectful and unhelpful in the long term) can be found at http://www.snopes.com/glurge/chush.asp.

September 16, 2008

Will Anyone Learn a Lesson From This? 584.3

Quite literally, these are turbulent times.

A very windy political campaign was, for a while, put in the background by hurricanes Gustav and Ike.

The much maligned media deserves to be commended for its reportage, especially the 24-hour coverage by CNN and MSNBC.

And while I’m handing out praise, cheers for the federal and state agencies that did such a good job of tracking, warning, evacuating, rescuing, and cleaning up before, during, and after the storms. Apparently, lots of people learned a lesson from the shameful shortcomings surrounding Katrina.

Unfortunately, we can’t say the same for those in charge of some major financial institutions or the people who were supposed to watch and regulate them.

The staggering recklessness of the top executives of iconic institutions like Fannie Mae, Freddie Mac, Merrill Lynch, Bear Stearns, Lehman Brothers, and AIG is almost incomprehensible, as is the ineffectual oversight of federal agencies.

Obviously, smart is not the same thing as wise. High IQs, advanced degrees, and big titles offer no shelter from man-made hurricanes of imprudence and shortsightedness.

It’s not unethical to be stupid, but it is to be irresponsible.

Jeers also to the corporate and governmental irresponsibility that caused the bailouts and bankruptcies that will cost trillions of dollars, drain public coffers, and decimate personal investment portfolios.

It will take much longer to clean up the mess on Wall Street than it will to clean up the streets of all the storm-torn towns.

The question is, will anyone learn a lesson from this?

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 15, 2008

Take Sex Seriously 584.2

What does sex have to do with ethics? Judging by the popular image conveyed on TV from sitcoms and reality shows, not much. We’re led to believe that extramarital sex is primarily a recreational activity, no more personal or significant than going to a baseball game.

But no matter how modern one tries to be, this is absolute nonsense. Whether it’s what we used to call “petting” or “going all the way,” people of conscience cannot ignore the inescapable ethical implications of such conduct – implications that go well beyond social taboos and religious views about chastity and fidelity.

The reality is, few human actions have a greater potential to affect the lives of others than sex. The ethical issues involved in unwanted pregnancy and the possibility of spreading or contracting disease are too large and obvious for anyone to deny. Yet there is an even greater danger that casual sex will cause one or both parties severe emotional distress, especially if it’s accompanied by dishonest, disrespectful, disloyal, exploitive, irresponsible, cruel, or callous behavior.

Despite pseudo-sophisticated denials, only shallow and self-absorbed people can engage in sex without putting their own or others’ feelings at risk. Even with good intentions, reputations can be injured, self-image can be lowered, expectations about healthy stable relations can be altered, and intense feelings of rejection, betrayal, inadequacy, and jealousy can be generated.

Given the range of physical, emotional, social, and spiritual consequences of sex, people of character take it seriously. They think beyond the moment and care about the person they’re with. They’re kind, and above all, responsible.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 12, 2008

Lessons From a Carrot, Egg, and Coffee Bean 584.1

Let’s face it. Personal trauma and tragedy – like illness or injury, death of a loved one, loss of a job, or an unexpected breakup of a relationship – are unavoidable. The question is: Will these private calamities erode our capacity to be happy or help us become stronger and better able to live a meaningful and fulfilling life?

Consider how differently carrots, eggs, and coffee beans are affected by the extreme adversity of being boiled.

Like the carrot, adversity can soften us. We can emerge more flexible, understanding, compassionate, and grateful or we can let our life spirit turn into a soft mush. Like the egg, the boiling water can make us harder, stronger, tougher, and wiser or we can become more cynical, pessimistic, callous, and inaccessible. And like the coffee bean, we can willingly transform our lives into something better or simply lose ourselves completely.

We can’t control what happens to us, but we have a lot to say about how we react and, therefore, what happens in us. The first step to turning adversity into advantage is to get out of the hot water as quickly as possible. Don’t dwell on catastrophe. Grieve, but move on. Don’t define your life by misfortune.

Second, force yourself to move forward. Draw on inner strengths, the people who love you, and your faith to help you transform your life into something better. Formulate a vision of a more purposeful life filled with people and experiences that will help you become more fulfilled.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 11, 2008

Extending the 9/11 Truce 583.5

Fewer than two years after the memory-searing, world-changing terrorist attacks of September 11, 2001, David Paine and Jay Winuk founded MyGoodDeed.org with the express purpose of transforming 9/11 into a national day of service in honor of the victims, volunteers, and rescue and recovery workers of Ground Zero.

A visit to this website will allow you to plug in your zip code and discover a wide range of opportunities for public service. It’s a worthy idea that deserves more attention and support.

A few weeks ago, the founders added a new twist. They wrote Senators McCain and Obama asking them to honor the anniversary of the attacks by suspending active campaigning. In a significant act of statesmanship, consistent with the unifying messages both candidates have sometimes advocated, they agreed.

The agreement preceded the recent escalation of nastiness and warlike rhetoric on both sides, so the truce couldn’t have come at a better time. The candidates and the nation need a pause from a campaign that seems to be spinning out of control, getting uglier, meaner, and more divisive by the day.

So today, with no speeches and hopefully no attempt to gain political advantage, the two candidates will walk together down a ramp into the pit where the World Trade Center towers once stood and lay a wreath at Ground Zero. Later, they will jointly appear at a televised forum on civic engagement, a topic they agree on.

It’s a fitting tribute to this solemn day.

An even greater tribute, and a monumental act of public service, would be a promise by these two good men who love their country to raise the campaign to a higher level and keep it there.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 10, 2008

Teaching Our Children to Make Good Decisions 583.4

Two young men in Florida removed a stop sign and brought it back to their fraternity house as a trophy. Shortly afterward, a fatal accident occurred at the sign-less intersection. The students were convicted of manslaughter.

 

In Tennessee, two teenagers were in a high-rise building. One dared the other to slide down a trash chute. His friend did so – right into a trash compactor. The one who egged him into the fatal accident was traumatized, possibly for life.

Four college fraternity students in California were charged with manslaughter when a pledge they were hazing died after they forced him to drink gallons of water.

What makes these stories all the more tragic is that we’re not talking about bad kids. We’re talking about fundamentally decent ones who made really bad choices.

The recurring nightmare of caring parents is that, during the course of growing up, their children will seriously damage themselves or others by an unwise decision. An endless array of bad consequences can result from reckless conduct to impress friends, thrill-seeking, or giving in to the temptation of drugs, alcohol, or sex. When kids get involved with irresponsible, manipulative, cruel, selfish, or simply stupid people who call themselves friends, there’s no telling what dumb things they can do.

All youngsters make foolish mistakes, as we did. Still, we can equip them with reasoning tools that can help them see and avoid really big, bad choices.

We can improve their decision-making skills by talking to them often about the importance of acting rationally, even when everyone around them seems overtaken by impulse. We can tell them stories to help them evaluate situations and anticipate potential consequences.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 9, 2008

The Struggle Between Wants and Shoulds 583.3

As a full-time ethicist – can you believe there even is such a thing? – I spend most of my time talking about right and wrong with parents and politicians, kids and corporate managers, journalists and generals. One thing I’ve learned is that ethics – being a good person and doing the right thing – is easier said than done.

Ethics, or the lack of it, is everywhere. It’s in the news, in schools, in the workplace, in sports, in parenting, you name it. Ethics would be easy to adhere to if we never wanted to do things we know are wrong. Unfortunately, if you’re like me, there’s a constant struggle between what I want to do (my desires) and what I should do (my ethical duties).

I want to avoid taxes, pay lower insurance premiums, and have the freedom to go through the “10 Items or Less” line with 14 items. Business executives want larger profits, politicians want more power, lawyers want to win.

Too often, our wants overcome our ambitions toward honor and virtue. We lie occasionally or cheat a little. As a result, there’s a hole in the moral ozone…and unfortunately, it’s getting bigger.

It’s going to take moral courage and real character to repair that hole.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 8, 2008

Making and Expressing Moral Judgments 583.2

Almost every week someone indignantly attacks my integrity because I offended them with a real or perceived opinion they didn’t like. The underlying assumption is that stating an opinion on any controversial matter violates the sacred duty of neutrality.

 

First, I’m a teacher and a commentator, not a judge or journalist. Although I strive mightily to be objective, I don’t feel obligated to be neutral. Objectivity implies impartiality, detachment, and independence in evaluating evidence; it doesn’t preclude expressing judgment.

When I think my opinion might matter, I’ve criticized politicians of both parties; condemned shady business practices, racial prejudice, torture, and the denial of due process; and commended admirable words, actions, and moving events irrespective of political implications.

When I was young, I thought it was wrong to be judgmental, regardless of the issue. Later, I came across an observation by philosopher/novelist Ayn Rand who argued that nonjudgmentalness is an abdication of moral responsibility, an exchange of moral blank checks – I won’t judge you if you won’t judge me. Ultimately, I realized I couldn’t be a good father or effective teacher unless I made moral judgments. Now, making and encouraging you to make moral judgments is part of what I do.

But while there’s a responsibility to make moral judgments for ourselves, we need to be careful in deciding whether and when to express them.

For example, my primary goal is to prod you to deeper thinking; it’s not to persuade you to my way of thinking. I’d rather build bridges than walls. Thus, I usually keep my personal convictions to myself.

Before you express a moral judgment, therefore, ask yourself what you hope to accomplish and what you’re likely to accomplish.

My opinion: Whether we’re talking politics or instructing our kids, we should use restraint in expressing moral judgments. And we should do so in a way that promotes respect, reflection, and discourse rather than resentment, resistance, and disagreement. That’s not so easy.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.


* According to a comment on the John F. Kennedy library website, President Kennedy’s favorite quote was based on Dante’s Inferno: “The hottest places in Hell are reserved for those who in time of moral crisis preserve their neutrality.”

“In the Inferno, Dante and his guide Virgil, on their way to Hell, pass by a group of dead souls outside the entrance to Hell. These individuals, when alive, remained neutral at a time of great moral decision. Virgil explains to Dante that these souls cannot enter either Heaven or Hell because they did not choose one side or another. They are therefore worse than the greatest sinners in Hell because they are repugnant to both God and Satan alike and have been left to mourn their fate as insignificant beings, neither hailed nor cursed in life or death, endlessly travailing below Heaven but outside of Hell.”


** Philosopher and novelist Ayn Rand (Atlas Shrugged and The Fountainhead) had a lot to say about moral judgments:

“The precept ‘Judge not that ye be not judged’…is an abdication of moral responsibility. It is a moral blank check one gives to others in exchange for a moral blank check one expects for oneself.”

“There is no escape from the fact that men have to make choices; so long as men have to make choices, there is no escape from moral values; so long as moral values are at stake, no moral neutrality is possible. To abstain from condemning a torturer is to become an accessory to the torture and murder of his victims.”

“The moral principle to adopt in this issue, is ‘Judge and be prepared to be judged.’”

“The opposite of moral neutrality is not a blind, arbitrary, self-righteous condemnation of any idea, action, or person that does not fit one’s mood, one’s memorized slogans, or one’s snap judgment of the moment. Indiscriminate tolerance and indiscriminate condemnation are not two opposites; they are two variants of the same evasion. To declare that ‘everybody is white’ or ‘everybody is black’ or ‘everybody is neither white nor black but gray’ is not a moral judgment but an escape from the responsibility of moral judgment.”

“To judge means to evaluate a given concrete by reference to an abstract principle or standard. It is not an easy task. It is not a task that can be performed automatically by one’s feelings, instincts, or hunches. It is a task that requires the most precise, the most exacting, the most ruthlessly objective and rational process of thought. It is fairly easy to grasp abstract moral principles; it can be very difficult to apply them to a given situation, particularly when it involves the moral character of another person. When one pronounces moral judgment, whether in praise or in blame, one must be prepared to answer ‘Why?’ and to prove one’s case – to oneself and to any rational inquirer.”

“Nothing can corrupt and disintegrate a culture or a man’s character as thoroughly as does the precept of moral agnosticism, the idea that one must never pass moral judgment on others, that one must be morally tolerant of anything, that the good consists of never distinguishing good from evil.”

“It is obvious who profits and who loses by such a precept. It is not justice or equal treatment that you grant to men when you abstain equally from praising men’s virtues and condemning men’s vices. When your impartial attitude declares, in effect, that neither the good nor the evil may expect anything from you, whom do you betray and whom do you encourage?”


September 5, 2008

The Disease of Low Expectations 583.1

The serious damage done to our economy, social institutions, and personal relationships by widespread cheating and dishonesty is bad enough. But widespread acceptance of such behavior as inevitable threatens to make our future a lot worse. In effect, our culture is being infected by a disease: the disease of low expectations.

This disorder is manifested by the corrosive assumption that human nature can’t be expected to withstand pressure or temptation. In other words, when there’s a conflict between self-interest and moral principles, self-interest – in fact, short-term self-interest – will generally prevail.

Whenever a politician lies to get elected, a student cheats to get into college, or an executive commits fraud to save a job or earn a bonus, we blame the system rather than the individual. Thus, under the influence of the disease of low expectations, an increasing army of apologists argue that both the carrot and the stick – previously thought of as valid motivating techniques – should be condemned and eliminated as corrupting influences that create irresistible pressures to cheat.

A school superintendent in Iowa once told me, “Cheating isn’t the problem; it’s the way we test.” We really can’t expect students not to cheat, he implied, especially when the stakes are so high.

I wonder whether he would be as comfortable with a similar explanation of corporate scandals: “Fraudulent accounting isn’t the problem; it’s the way we compensate executives.”

Don’t buy into this dreadfully pessimistic and perverted perspective about human nature. Cheating is wrong and harmful. Integrity is real and possible. It just takes character.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 4, 2008

Finding God in the Park 582.6

Abe was fiercely independent, even at age 85, but after a mild stroke his son insisted he move in with him. Abe missed going to the park near his old apartment, and one Saturday he set out to find it.

 

He became disoriented and asked a young boy where it was. The boy, Timmy, said he’d like to take Abe there but didn’t have time because he was looking for God. Timmy said he needed to talk to him about why his parents were getting a divorce.

“Maybe God is in the park,” said the old man. “I’d like to talk to him, too, about why he’s made me useless.” And they set off together to find God.

At the park Timmy began to cry about the divorce, and Abe lovingly held his face in both hands and looked him straight in the eyes. “Timmy, I don’t know why bad things happen, but I know it’s not because of you. I know you’re a good boy and your parents love you and you’ll be okay.”

“Are you sure?”

“I’m sure.”

Timmy gave Abe a big hug and said, “I’m so glad I met you. Thanks, I can go now.”

Across the street, Timmy’s mother saw them hug and approached her son worriedly. “Who was that old man?”

“I think he’s God.”

“Did he say that?” she demanded.

“No, but when he held me and told me I’m going to be okay, I felt better. Only God can do that.”

When Abe got home, his son asked in a scolding voice, “Where were you?”

“I was in the park with God,” Abe said.

“Really? What makes you think you were with God?”

“Because he sent me a boy who needed me. When the boy hugged me, I felt God telling me I wasn’t useless.”

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 3, 2008

Five Birds and Good Intentions 582.5

Five birds are sitting on a telephone wire. Two decide to fly South. How many are left? Most people would say three. Actually, all five are left. You see, deciding to fly isn’t the same as actually doing it.

If a bird really wants to go somewhere, it’s got to point itself in the right direction, jump off the wire, flap its wings, and keep flapping until it gets where it wants to go.

So it is with most things. Good intentions are not enough. It’s not what we want, say, or think that makes things happen; it’s what we do.

I frequently think of writing thank-you, birthday, and congratulatory notes. Unfortunately, only a sad few of these good sentiments ever make it to paper. Still, if I don’t look too closely, I can delude myself into thinking that based on my good thoughts I’m a gracious and grateful person. A truer and less admirable picture of my character is drawn by my actions.

In the end, we either do or don’t do. We either make the time to do the things we want to and should do, or we make excuses. As Alfred Adler said, “Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust movement.”

What do you want to do? Do you want to take a course, change your job, lose weight, make new friends, or spend more time with and appreciate more the ones you have?

What’s stopping you from jumping off the wire and flapping your wings?

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 2, 2008

The Missing Ingredient: Objectivity 582.4

How much weight would you give to a proud mother’s judgment as to the talent, intelligence, or good looks of her child?

 

In evaluating the necessity and propriety of Russia’s invasion of Georgia, would it be rational to listen only to ethnic Russians or Georgians?

Wise decision-makers require additional evidence because the credibility of the testimony of proud parents and passionate patriots is tainted by a lack of objectivity.

That’s why we disqualify trial judges and police detectives from cases involving relatives and why we don’t let employees make purchasing decisions when they have a financial interest in the outcome.

The missing ingredient in the current Presidential campaign is objectivity.

Although the better news anchors maintain neutrality, they seem more interested in generating heat than light, dissension rather than discourse. They choose clashing and contentious partisans who assault our sensibilities, scorning and mocking each other, often without any show of civility.

Driven more by opportunism than integrity and unencumbered by the concept of consistency, they keep changing the target, arguing whatever might strengthen their case. Often, it’s hard to conceive that they believe what they’re saying.

First, we need to discount the opinions of blindly loyal partisans who, regardless of the issue, interpret every new fact as confirmation of their previous position.

Second, and much harder, we need to challenge our own willingness and ability to be objective in determining what’s true and relevant.

If we only listen to or believe people who agree with us and filter out every fact and argument that could justify a change of mind, we become them – blindly loyal partisans – and that’s an irresponsible waste of our power to choose.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

September 1, 2008

More On Work 582.3

What we do to make a living plays such a critical role in our lives that it’s worthwhile to ask ourselves now and again whether we’re in the right job.

There are four dimensions of job satisfaction: what you do, who you work for, who you work with, and what you’re paid. If there’s a big deficiency in any one of these, you should consider changing your job by fixing what’s broke or finding another one.

Remember, you do have a choice. Sure, you need a job, but it’s a trap to believe you need the job you have. Like it or not, you could lose your job at any time for a whole lot of reasons. And if you do, you’ll get a new job – often a better one.

To have a good life, you need a good job, one where you can feel a sense of achievement in what you do, where you can be proud of whom you work for, and where you like and respect the people you work with.

As Disraeli said, “Life is too short to be little.” Don’t belittle your life by demeaning work.

No job is inherently demeaning. Physical labor can be as rewarding and meaningful as management. Every job can be performed in a manner that is significant and worthwhile. What is demeaning is a job where you are pressured to compromise your values or where you work for or with people or a company you aren’t proud to associate with – a boss who’s dishonest, disrespectful, irresponsible, or unfair or coworkers who don’t care about quality and excellence.

John Ruskin said, “The highest reward for your toil is not what you get for it, but what you become by it.” Your job should make you a better as well as a happier person.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

Thoughts About Work 582.2

Labor Day’s a good time to think about the role work plays in your life.

Henry Thoreau said, “The mass of men spend their lives in quiet desperation.” For some, work is part of that desperation. For others, it’s part of what makes life worth living. Finding the right job is as difficult as finding the right mate, but it’s just as important.

People who love their work get more out of their lives. Teddy Roosevelt said, “Far and away, the best prize that life offers is the chance to work hard at work worth doing.” George Sand put it another way: “Work is not a punishment; it’s a reward.”

According to W. H. Auden, three things are needed if people are to be happy in their work: “They must be fit for it, they must not do too much of it, and they must have a sense of success in it.” Elbert Hubbard told his readers to “Get happiness out of your work or you may never know what happiness is.”

In summing up his life, comedian Johnny Carson said, “Never continue in a job you don’t enjoy. If you’re happy in what you’re doing, you’ll like yourself and you’ll have inner peace and more success than you could possibly have imagined.”

One of the profound questions is where does work fit into a balanced life. Some live for their work. If their work is truly meaningful and gratifying, that may make sense, but Harold Kushner points out, “I’ve never met anyone on their deathbed who said, ‘I wish I’d spent more time at the office.’”

Work is, of course, a common subject of cynical observations such as “Accomplishing the impossible means only that the boss will add it to your regular duties” (Doug Larson) or “Many people quit looking for work when they find a job.”

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

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